How much of your life is really based on timing?

After several frustrating talks with girlfriends/my sister, I found myself thinking about the whole idea of the "perfect mate" or "soul-mate". For the record, I do not believe in the idea that there is the one right person for each other person. That's just sentimental. Even on the S.A.T. it doesn't say "right answer", it says "best answer"..."best answer" and they wrote the damn test. Why do people think they can do better than this?

So anyway, my fellow female associates have me thinking that in general, there are a lot of women out there passing on really good, hoping for better, ending up with nothing - or worse yet, some guy we all know is a jackass, but my friend has to pretend he's great because we all know she let perfectly good guys take a hike.

But...if I am being perfectly honest...in my heart of hearts, I too am terrified about the alternative. You marry pretty damn good, the best you ever knew, and years later, after you have the little house with the white picket fence, you meet "really great". Now what?

Seriously, you have to ignore this or you just cannot function...right?

So, it all comes down to timing, but does that make sense? That something so huge should be based on pure circumstance? There should be an option besides either ruining the lives of everyone around you or blowing your chance to be truly happy.

I guess if everyone thought like I do, we wouldn't be able to form a society - but that's true about most of my views; they only work for me because most of the world thinks differently.