Are we more than the sum of our parts?

Allysther makes a good point: "I promise that 'really great' will bring things to the relationship that are worse than 'pretty damn good'."

In this world of total customization (computers, cars, houses), there is a temptation to think that you can do that with people. Guy version 1.1.2 has features A, B and C...potentially upgradable to D and E. However, you just know that Guy version 2.0 will come with D and E already installed plus F...lots of F...wait, I digress...

Just like every new gizmo you find yourself thinking you cannot live without features that you didn't even know existed when you made your original purchase (is it just me or is there something screwed up about iPod video - how can you be on the go while staring at a screen? It's like people don't want to listen to...or now even look at... the world around them).

You start to feel like you were ripped off because when you bought yours, you didn't know the features of the new model were even possible.

But what you don't realize is that you are caught up in the features. You bought the original model because you really wanted the item. Now you are trying to upgrade individual features, but you have to buy the item all over again. What the hell are you going to do with two ____s?

So what am I saying?

"There is simply no way to remain satisfied with what you have if you forever have your eyes open for what might be next." - more from Allysther.

Man, have I learned that. It's hard not to stop shopping after you make the purchase, but when has that ever lead to anything other than regret.

Dont worry my friend, I know all of this. It's the total picture, not just parts.